Grief: The final act of love..

Take a look at the picture below. It gives a verbal illustration of what the journey of grief can* look like. What no one tells you is, the phases of grief aren't typically in order. Each person is different—so, naturally the process will look and flow differently with each loss/person.

I can recall that my first time learning about this all was maybe 7 years AFTER the death of my Father. It wasn’t until I was obtaining my degree in Psychology that I learned about the 7 stages of grief and quickly identified with a few of the stages immediately. 

My advice would be to allow yourself to grieve. Nothing in this process feels good initially (I mean, nothing painful does), but with time, allowing yourself to FEEL while being real with yourself about your feelings..you simply learn how to live better with the reality  that your loved one is no longer here. 

Again, the process is different for each person. Don’t rush it. Don’t try taking someone to else’s route. Pray, be patient with yourself and try not to hurt others in the process of your grief. The confrontational stage is an aggressive one. 

God created Counsel for times when we feel our emotions or thoughts are too much to carry. Google local therapist of your likings, read the reviews and take a bold step to becoming a better you.

Therapy doesn’t mean that you’re broken. It means that you value yourself enough to prevent shattering. 



** sidenote: Grief is the deep feeling of emptiness or incompleteness from no longer having something. That’s not just limited to loved ones dying. It’s pretty applicable to many things of value that have been lost. Acknowledging it is the most important step towards self-accountability and healing.**

Peace and healing to all that need it.